To say or not to say… that is the question. If it’s kind, then talk. In “How to Get Along With People,” here is the next point. Once again, this honored list of tips was so appreciated by my English Grandmother (found in an Ann Landers’s Column) from decades ago.
Tip 3 Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging thing to or about somebody. Praise good work done, regardless of who did it; if criticism is merited, criticize helpfully, never spitefully.
Wow! Think about what this truly means. It is easy to notice when a person or business has presented a kind gesture. We recently received a sample book in the mail. I didn’t know the author. They sent the book and asked us to read and review it and give them feedback if we were interested. In any event the book was sent free. At first I wondered how they found us. Then, I called the phone number on the package and told the receptionist what a lovely gesture the free book was in the mail, and that I would be delighted to read and send my insights to them.
Inside, I felt a “glow.” By sharing appreciation for a kind gesture someone made to me I found a tingling sensation of pure joy move inside me. What is that? Energy? Love (for someone I do not know). Something beyond words … even though words were used. It feels good to share kind words – doesn’t it?
Integrity shows through in what you say you will do and how you use words to talk about others. Recently, words came back to us that a woman we didn’t know, who was offering similar services was giving “off” ideas and negative criticism about us. This person’s words caused several sleepless nights. Although, we have tools to work with sleeping, people are human and can be hurt deeply by a fearful person who uses negative devices to make themselves appear better. Her untruths and twisted words made me wonder about her sense of integrity. Be generous with your compliments and show others that you can appreciate that all businesses have something good to offer.
Share Kind Words
In positive celebration to those we teach, please read about two of our graduates. I love seeing the businesses created by my students and coaching clients. In the last week, I visited two of my graduates.
Jean Jackson has a lovely new center called Becoming You Hypnosis. I’m so proud of her for making a welcoming and healing place in Beaverton where she carries the tone of a caring and encouraging guide.
In Ashland, I visited Nancy Walsch and her husband Robert Arnot. Nancy graduated from our hypnotherapy and NLP courses years ago and is happily enjoying working in her center Ashland Hypnosis as well as helping people in her coaching practice at Igniting Your Gifts ( www.angelsandabundanceacademy.com ). Robert has developed a truly valuable service helping people make videos for their online presence. He brings his background and expertise in computer and videos so that others can be successful. I feel tingly inside simply sharing them with you!
These people have taken what they learned, practiced and created a welcoming service. Their places are uniquely balanced to their talents and I want you to know each is someone I am proud to give positive referrals. Apositiva has had the pleasure over the past 20 years to train those open to learning new skills for communication, business and personal development. Thank you to those who have honored Rich Aanrich and me as their instructor.
The Scent of Roses Always Clings to the Hand That Gives Roses – Chinese Proverb
Remember that you can make or break someone’s heart with your words. Please remember to use the opportunities before you to pass on and say kind and encouraging things to or about somebody. Even if it’s another student in your class, a business similar to yours, or a family and friend, share words in a helpful way.
Training in Creativity and Communication Classes
It’s time for me to remind you that Apositiva has upcoming Growing Coach Training, Certified Hypnotherapy Training, and Neuro-linguistic Programming Workshops coming up. Please consider coming to our Mindmapping Workshop, too. It’s fun and creative!
I do hope to meet you in our special place here in Portland, Oregon where we seek to enrich the lives of others. Call us for more information at 503-525-0595.